Now it’s your turn. Write your first objective using the Méthode Dolfino®. Enjoy it, because just because it’s serious doesn’t mean it can’t be fun. Think of your Young Me. Don’t hesitate to cross out your draft and rephrase it. And once you’re satisfied, have fun reading your objective out loud to see the effect it has on you. It’s often very revealing.

The criteria needed to properly achieve my objective:

Includes the protective fuse by ending with “...or even better, for my greater good and that of everyone”

“My objective in 12 questions” is a tool that lets you define your objectives even more clearly. It’s actually a 12-question form designed to further nourish your reflections and uncover your real motivations. It’s important to fill it out before starting a session with the Méthode Dolfino®, for each of your objectives.

Using this tool will become essential if you want to guide someone using the Méthode Dolfino®. It’s very useful to give this tool to the guided person before your first meeting with them.

Establish an even clearer objective by helping you prioritize your actions and direct your inner resources toward the same direction.

Increase your motivation by launching your involvement through a concrete tool. These are your first steps toward achieving your objective.

Determine the pace of your progress, the expected results, and how to evaluate them.

Identify your internal conflicts, that is, anticipate the resistance you might have to letting go of a problem.

Explore non-obvious solutions by preparing the unconscious to adopt new ways of seeing things or acting.

Write your objective here, drafted according to the rules explained in the previous section.

“Starting tomorrow morning, and every day for the rest of my life, I get up before 9 a.m., I get ready in 15 minutes or less, then I go for a 15-minute walk for my greater good and the greater good of all, and even better.”

What tangible benefits do you see in achieving your goal?

“Getting some fresh air, feeling more fit, having time to get my daily tasks done.”

What will your measures be, your before/after points of comparison?

“When I’ve returned to a level of functioning similar to what I had two years ago, that is, before my depression, and this for at least three consecutive months.”

What are your secondary gains from staying in your patterns, in your situation?

“I feel good about not having to go into the office every morning to do a routine task. This situation also gives me a lot of time alone, which suits me since my social relationships aren’t always easy to manage.”

Money, support from your social network, time, self-confidence?

“I need support from my partner. I also need to find a more stimulating career. I need to learn to know myself better, to work on my talents and my desires.”

Think here about what you might lose if you achieved your goal.

“I think I’ll disappoint my partner if I leave this job. I’m risking my financial stability since it’s currently maintained by my group insurance. I’m afraid I’ll no longer have any time for myself.”

This projection aims to motivate you, to help you take charge by becoming aware of what maintaining or worsening your current situation could lead to.

“I’d be even more depressed and my physical health would take a hit. My partner’s patience might reach its limits and they’d leave me. I’d find myself with no financial security to support my children.”

Open your mind here to new solutions, to a new way of seeing things.

“I always thought I had to get through this alone, but the scenario might be different if I involved my best friend, my partner and our children more.”

Identify the people currently in your network, or new people who could offer you their support.

“My friends, like René, Marie, Sylvain and Jacques. My husband or my wife. My children and probably my granddaughter. I could also chat with my neighbour, who just went back to school to change careers.”

Question 10: When you’ve achieved your goal, what will be different in your life?

Here, the question is meant to be broader than question 2, and aims to identify the emotional changes that achieving your goal will bring to your life.

“Everything. My perception of myself, my relationship, the atmosphere at home, my health, my joy of living.”

Identify here the main source of your motivation to reach your goal.

“I’ve had enough of slowly dying a little more each day and not fully enjoying life.”

Question 12: What do I intend to do first to reach my goal (my first step)?

“Go out for a 15-minute walk, looking up and smiling.”