Before playing with the Méthode Dolfino®, we want to clarify a few things about how the guided sessions you’re about to experience should unfold, so that you stay mindful of the following points.

Synchronizing with the person you’re guiding is essential since, without “synchro,” no guidance is possible. To better understand, imagine dancing the tango while your partner sketches out the steps of a waltz. You’d quickly feel quite alone. A lack of synchronization means a difficult guided session. Without this special rapport, you’ll feel like you’re going in circles, and often like you’re disturbing the person you’re accompanying. Good synchronization guarantees a harmonious, successful guided session.

Synchronization is the art of being receptive to the other person. Indeed, by synchronizing with someone else, you allow your unconscious and theirs to communicate with each other. In this way, the two unconscious minds recognize each other and manage to establish fluid, harmonious communication. Have you ever noticed how easy communication seems when watching two longtime friends talk together? They’re in synchro. This rapport is therefore the foundation of good guidance in an altered state of consciousness, and it remains a precious asset in any human relationship.

This is one of the fundamental elements of the Méthode Dolfino®. In absolute terms, it’s better to forget a step in a technique than to lack synchro… In the end, though, the ideal is still perfect synchro combined with a perfectly mastered technique, isn’t it?

Establishing good synchronization easily and quickly comes naturally to many people. This is, for example, what makes great charmers so successful. Here are a few tips to help you build a good synchro:

Coordinate your breathing with that of the person you’re guiding by taking three deep breaths in and out together. This will allow both of you to settle into the present moment, relax, connect, and begin building a relationship of trust.

Recognize the invisible part of the person you’re guiding. Another good way to build rapport is to talk with each other to find things you have in common. The unconscious is sensitive to shared tastes and interests, because human beings tend to trust more easily people who resemble them and understand them. Do you both love chihuahuas? Are you both karaoke fanatics? Or maybe you both prefer your coffee without sugar? There’s always a way to find common ground with the other person. As you talk, take the time to look the other person in the eye, so as to recognize, welcome, and encourage the child within them. In what you say, as well as in the energy you give off, put forward your own playful, joyful, light side.

Imitate with subtlety and elegance. For the unconscious of the person you’re guiding to accept you as guide and let you show them the way, you need to earn their trust. To get there, it’s essential that they recognize themselves in you. The best way to resemble them is to imitate them. This is the moment to put your acting talents to use. Your imitation must be refined: you need to reproduce the movements, attitudes, and reactions without slipping into caricature.

An actor who excels at their craft doesn’t give the impression of playing a role. They become the character by subtly integrating all of their quirks:

It is important to note, however, that out of respect, you will never reproduce any tics or mannerisms of the person you’re guiding, nor will you grotesquely imitate a nasal tone of voice or a speech impediment. To imitate does not mean to mock.

A fun way to check the quality of your rapport is to slightly modulate the rhythm of your words or the tone of your voice, then observe whether the other person does the same. If they follow you, your rapport is remarkable of its kind.

Building rapport is one thing; maintaining it for as long as needed is another. Here are a few tips:

Respect physical space by keeping a comfortable distance for the other person. Establish stable physical contact (a hand on the shoulder, for example) and avoid sudden movements.

Listen beyond the words. It’s essential to learn to “hear” the unconscious’s coded messages. They’re hidden in tone of voice, in unspoken questions, or in body posture. Learn to spot what’s left unsaid in micro-expressions, as well as emotions that spill over into a quiver in the voice or a change in breathing rhythm.

Enter the other person’s world by paying attention to them, showing signs of interest, and asking questions. Also respond to whatever comes up, so the person you’re guiding truly feels that you’re with them.

Once upon a time, there was a herd of mice that had launched into a frantic race. They were so busy running headlong toward victory that they didn’t see they were charging straight toward the edge of the cliff overlooking the sea and the rocks.

A squirrel, seeing the scene from the top of its tree, tried to save them from certain death by shouting:

- “Hey mice, mice... not that way, not that way... You’re going to di...”

A second squirrel, a bit lower in the tree, then started waving wildly and shouting at the top of its lungs:

Once again it was in vain, the mice, unshaken, continued on their way, ignoring the danger.

That’s when a third squirrel jumped from the tree, started running behind the mice, then doubled its effort to pass them and take the lead of the herd.

The mice immediately matched their pace to its.

The leader squirrel then began a 90-degree turn, leading all the mice who followed it to a safe place, thus escaping their tragic fate.

Some pretty wild things happen in hypnosis practices sometimes… In any case, that’s not what a Méthode Dolfino® practitioner should do

The guided person explains that they don’t like being touched much, and the guide nevertheless places their leg right against theirs for the whole guidance.

The guided person shows signs of stress or irritation because the pace of the guidance is too fast, but the guide isn’t listening to these signals.

The guided person tells a story that matters to them, and the guide pays very little attention to it.

The guide keeps checking their phone because they’re waiting for an important message.