What if you weren’t alone at the controls of your fabulous human machine? Imagine yourself with three brains. Each one has its own areas of competence, its own ways of thinking and acting, as well as its own mode of functioning. The field of possibilities is then immense. The idea behind the three Selves is that you carry within you three extraordinary “selves” that you will learn to harmonize so they can work together effectively. It’s a model of how the human mind functions, a symbolization of the structure of the self that helps you better understand and visualize the workings of our mental representations.

Some call it the inner child, because it functions like a child of about 5 years old. It intensely seeks pleasure, actively avoids pain, and appreciates all forms of attention.

Of the three Selves, it’s the one that reacts fastest and first.

It retains around 2000 sensory pieces of information per second.

It’s the one that manages 85% of the functions and reactions of the human being.

With the Méthode Dolfino®, you communicate with the Young Me through its own language, that is, through images, symbols, and metaphors.

During a guidance, the Young Me appreciates the use of simple language. It likes definite articles that favor dissociation: the (for example: the body, the hand, the eyes...). It often needs encouragement to move beyond its blocks, its limitations, and its fears. Although it must choose its own solutions, it’s useful to remind it of the immensity of its field of possibilities by offering it at least three possible paths.

The Young Me also carries the important responsibility of protecting your emotional and psychological integrity. It’s very skilled at inventing answers to questions that matter to it, at creating distortions of reality, and at repressing traumatic situations and events.

It’s not quick to initiate changes if it subjectively judges that everything is fine

The Young Me lives outside of time: for it, everything that happens, and everything that has happened, is part of the present moment.

Very emotional, it’s common for the unconscious to misunderstand instructions or wrongly interpret a word. The Young Me is both sensitive and vulnerable, because it’s constantly in a mode of total emotional openness.

Instinctive, the Young Me reacts with its intuition and primary instinct rather than in a thoughtful and logical way. It seeks to confirm its beliefs rather than to search for the truth.

Most of your biological functions, such as breathing, blood circulation, and blinking, are regulated by the Young Me.

The Young Me is responsible for a great many of your habits, since it tends to reproduce and repeat. It does, however, have the ability to change a situation. This opens up a multitude of possible solutions. In fact, the Young Me is eager to provide you with a solution, as long as you listen to it.

It’s also called the ego, the conscious mind, or the mental. In fact, the Rational Me is like a high-performing computer, Cartesian and logical. Its view of the world excludes beauty and is filled with problems and solutions. Structured and rigid, it isn’t in touch with emotions. Since the rational mind assimilates, on average, only seven pieces of information per second (7 +/- 2), its capacity to manage all stimuli is limited.

Since the rational mind generally doesn’t take the Young Me’s opinions into account, it’s the rational mind we want to distract through trance induction. Since it tends to want to control everything, the goal is to dissociate it from the young one. In other words, the trance state allows the Young Me to emerge and express itself while the Rational Me is busy with something else.

Often called the soul or consciousness, the Greater Me is the spiritual portion of the human being. This facet is expressed more easily through consciousness-expansion techniques, which we’ll cover further on. Inspired by the beauty of life, the Greater Me is, in a way, the source of human inspiration and, probably, of the invisible bonds that unite all living beings. A reservoir of creativity and wisdom, the Greater Me influences dreams, recognizes synchronicities, and encourages us to grow into better human beings. Some consider it the divine aspect within.

To illustrate how the 3 Selves can work together, we offer you this metaphor.

Imagine a magnificent carriage carrying a prince inside. The prince has a clear idea of his destination. For days and nights, he has dreamed of nothing but his return to the castle. He longs to be reunited with his sweet and radiant princess.

Seated comfortably at the front of the carriage, an efficient and experienced coachman is responsible for driving it.

Trotting happily out front, a spirited and energetic young horse pulls the carriage along.

Suddenly, the young horse rears up on its hind legs, whinnies eagerly, and steps off the path to graze on the fresh grass it loves above all else.

Curious by nature, the stallion is quickly distracted by anything amusing. It takes tremendous pleasure in making new encounters, exploring, and trying new paths.

Obviously, if the coachman lets the exuberant horse wander as it pleases, the carriage will go round in circles and never reach its destination.

Likewise, if the coachman pulls too hard on the horse’s reins and speaks to it in a threatening voice, the poor animal will quickly become depressed, sad, and listless — unable to bring the carriage safely to its destination.

For everyone to journey together harmoniously toward the destination, the prince, the coachman, and the horse must work together intelligently.

That way, the prince will find his beloved princess again, the coachman will be able to rest, his mind at peace for having carried out his mission, and the horse will return to its green pastures, surrounded by its four-legged friends.

Here, the prince represents the Greater Me, the coachman the Rational Me, and the horse the Young Me